TH&TH Real Bride: Lindsay


TH&TH were honoured to create three bespoke dresses for the most beautiful London wedding. Held in the magnificent In & Out Naval and Military club in June this year, bride Lindsay Payne and groom David Turner had the most incredible day surrounded by friends and family. We bring you all the beautiful details for you to create your own classically inspired day, captured by the super talented Michelle Lindsell. 

The In & Out

Before we get into the details of your day, we'd love to know how you met, and how David popped the question?

We met through mutual friends whilst watching the rugby in Clapham. We started out as friends but started dating 9 months later in the autumn of 2010.

David asked me to marry him in Dec 2014 whilst on a romantic trip to Bruges.  It was sunset and we were on Lovers Bridge at the Minnewater Lake.  He called my name and I turned around to see him on one knee holding a ring.  I was very surprised as it was a rather grand public gesture!  

The whole thing had nearly been spoilt at the Eurostar earlier that day when the security people had gone through his case in front of me.  Luckily he managed to distract me so I didn’t spot the ring – otherwise we would have got engaged at the Eurostar security desk!

 We want to know about THE DRESS, tell us how, when, where you found it? 

I bought my dress from Mirror Mirror in Angel.  I went to 5 different stores and tried a myriad of styles. 

I finally decided on The Pronovias Alcanar, a tulle ballgown dress with a sweetheart neckline. It has lots of embroidery detailing and a semi cathedral train.  It was perfect for the grand rooms at the In & Out club.

It was £1,600 but when you add in adjustments it was £2,300.  Top tip - If you have a large dress with a lot of layers you will pay a lot in adjustments….  

How did you accessorise your incredible dress?

I chose a beautiful belt with pearls and crystals from Mirror Mirror where I bought my gown. I decided against a veil as I wasn’t having a church ceremony. Also, my dress had a huge train and I didn’t want to be overwhelmed! I bought a decorative hair slide instead. I treated myself to some Jimmy Choo's as my wedding shoes.  I wanted shoes that I could wear again so I went for the Luna 100 which are glitter peep toe heels. My 'husband to be' bought me some diamond cluster earrings to wear on the day from Goldsmiths and my friend Rebecca Bastone lent me her diamond pendant.

How well did David scrub up?

I wanted the Groom and the grooms party to all wear tails so in the end we rented the full suit, tie, pocket square etc from Moss Bros.  They looked very smart.  He then bought shoes from Ted Baker and that was it! Very simple!

Now for your main girls, give us the goss!

I had three bridesmaids.  My best friend Debbie Lovegrove.  We have known each other for over 20 years so she is more like family to be honest!  In addition, I had my two younger sisters.  Jessica Drucker (who also got married in 2016) and Tilly Payne.

I was lucky enough to work with the incredibly talented team at TH&TH who designed bespoke bridesmaid dresses for me.  The ladies wanted something that felt glamorous but also something that allowed them to wear a bra! 

I chose the final design as it echoed the shape of my dress and I knew would make the ladies feel very special. 

I gave TH&TH a dusky pink piece of wool and they matched the dresses to this colour exactly.  The dresses were fitted perfectly to each bridesmaid and they received so many complements on the day.

I bought them all simple strappy gold shoes and some pearl jewellery to complete the look.

Tell us about the ceremony, were you a nervous bride, crying bride or cool calm collected bride?

We had a civil ceremony in the King Harald V Room at The In & Out Naval & Military Club  

I was a huge fan of classic musicals growing up and my favourite was Singing in the Rain so I walked down the aisle to “You were meant for me” by Gene Kelly. During the signing “Steppin out with my baby” by Fred Astaire played and we left to my favourite song “Your love keeps lifting me higher” by Jackie Wilson.

The most incredible moment was holding David’s hand after my father walked me down the aisle.  It was the first time I have ever seen him nervous but he couldn’t stop smiling. 

Our tummy's are rumbling, what did you serve for the wedding breakfast?

We had a brilliant catering team from Ampersand.

It was a summery menu of…

Starter - Garden peas & ham mousse, Melon, Dry Cured Ham & Nasturtium

Main - Pan Roasted Duck Breast, Smoked Duck Leg Bon Bon, Cherries, Creamed potato & glazed cabbage

Dessert - Summer Trifle - Pimm’s Jelly, Lavender Custard, mint and cucumber sorbet

Your flowers were incredible, the colours were so pretty, who created this flower wizardry?

Our flowers were stunning.  Kenza Waddington is a genius.  Her company Peppermint Poppy did all of the flowers; bouquets, button holes, centre pieces, mantlepiece arrangements and even provided flowers for the cake.

We decided on minimal foliage focusing instead on roses, peonies and Hydrangea to capture the Summer Heritage theme.

We've had so many people ask us about your cake after we posted it on our Instagram.

Our friend Elly I’Anson made our cake as a wedding gift.  It was a three tiered lemon cake with buttercream frosting and decorated with flowers from peppermintpoppy.  You can find her on Instagram ‘@slicelydone’.

How did you entertain you guests after dinner?

We went old school and provided a Polaroid camera, huge amounts of film and a lot of props.  Hats seem to be a huge winner!  Photos were put into the guest book and really captured the event from a different angle!  These are some of my favourite photographs of the day. People also took some home as mementos of the day.

We also set up a huge cheese buffet in the library to keep evening guests busy.

 We hired a fantastic wedding band for the day.  The Dominoes (booked via Gigzmanagement) were amazing.  I had seen them perform in Val D'Isere in 2015 when I was skiing and thought I’d see if they ever performed in the UK.  They created a brilliant atmosphere doing everything from pop to rap!  I would hire them again in a heartbeat!

What was your first dance song? 

Stand by Me – Ben E King.  I love motown and this is one of our favourite songs. I found the 1st dance quite emotional and may have even shed a tear…

What are the three snapshot moments of your wedding that have stayed with you?

When my Dad and my sisters first saw me in my dress. Having a moment together before we went down was very special.

When I first held David’s hand after I walked down the aisle. Both of our hands were shaking a little and I was so excited about the day to come.

1st dance. I found it more emotional than I was expecting plus it was lovely seeing my family dancing together around me!

We're always green with envy hearing about couples Honeymoons, give us the lowdown on where you went.

We booked two weeks via Kuoni to Bali. 

We stayed in Ubud, Gili Meno and Semiyak and it was brilliant. Kuoni organised everything.

We went to three different destinations to allow us to see a little more of Bali. Overall though it was extremely laid back.  We did a full day tour with a private guide when we stayed in Ubud which allowed us to see more of Bali’s culture and countryside.  We did a day trip to see the elephants from Seminyak and cycled around the island on Gili Meno.  Otherwise we ate, snorkelled and relaxed with cocktails.

Thank you so much for sharing your wedding with us, finally can you give us your top tips for 'brides to be' in the planning stages of their big day.

Once you have the venue everything else falls into place.  Your entire theme comes from that one decision so make that decision together. 

I was delighted with the band.  We spent more money on this than I originally budgeted but if you are going to splurge then this is a good place to do it as you can’t create a party atmosphere without the right entertainment.

I should have thought through the photography list more carefully. My parents are divorced and I forgot this meant more potential photo variations.  I also forgot to have a photo with just my mother.  Think the list through carefully and consult a family member to double check!

Get a spreadsheet with a lot of tabs and keep track of committed vs planned spend.  Then you are able to see what is happening with your cash flow.   Build 10% fat into your budget.  Dress fittings, room tabs, taxis and ‘finishing touches’ all come in higher than you imagine!